A 4-Step Pattern of Change
The Structure of Transformation
I recently listened to a recording of an acquaintance who also happens to be an excellent NLP trainer and teacher. He presented a four part "Meta-pattern" that is the basis of all NLP change patterns. So credit goes out to John Overdurf.
Have you ever wondered if there is an easy way to get a handle of the dynamics of transformation and change? Many of us are going through change and helping others in their transitions. If you are interested, we are sharing this often kept "secret" so you know it and might be seeing how it works in your life and other transforming situations. [John O. provided the basic steps and I did the explanatory sections of each step, trying my best to translate into everday English.]
Step 1 - Associate the person with the problem state... "Associate" means that the person needs to first be identified in a particular feeling and subpersonality pattern that is considered in some way a concern or problem. For those who counsel others, the person usually walks in already "associated" in the "problem" state... as a matter of fact, most people go through their daily lives associated in a particular subpersonality or identification or role that may not bring about optimal results for a satisfying life. To intensify an associated state, you can ask the person to get deeper into the feelings and sensation in their body... What do they wish would happen? What is the main problem?
Step 2 - Disassociate the person from the problem state ... "Disassociate" means that the person is removed from the original state and is in some other state. It may be a neutral state of observer. It may be teaching the person to step outside the associated state. Most of us have our ways to do this and each discipline and approach has some way of dis-identification or disassociate from the 'problem' state or identity. Using parts and chairs... using visualization to allow an image to come for this aspect helps the person "chunk up" to a different perspective... For others, taking some breaths and relaxing into a more meditative state can help the person find that place of observation and awareness.
Step 3 - Associate the person to re-source state ... this brings into play inner resources which may simply defined as "the wisest part of you unconscious mind that only has your deepest good as a goal" or however you might frame it... it of course assumes the person has some trust in you and their unconscious mind... some people may have a symbol for this resource such as a spiritual figure... the ocean... a star...the sun... a wise old man or woman... light... whatever works for them... this pattern works because there actually is that inner resource or Source... whatever we may call it... that has transforming and transcending energy... At least this is my experience and sense of knowing... At least a person may in mind some wise mentor or teacher they can use as an inner resource... You may need to help them identify a resource.
Step 4 - Associate the inner "resources" to the problem state ... this process reconfigures the patterning in the mind... so now the person sees the issue or problem from a different perspective... and the original "problem" area or energy is now both transformed or changes and also anchored to a positive source within. And the circle of transformation is complete.
I will use an abbreviated example to illustrate the process of change:
Jim was feeling unloved with low self esteem. He was already in the "associated with the problem state" [Step 1] ... As we went deeper into the unloved feelings I ask him to allow an image to emerge for this part of him... now by suggesting this is a part of him and not who he is in his entirety also helps to bring about the shift of disassociating from the problem state... He saw little Jimmy at about age 8 whose dad was never around or not paying attention to him in any way. [Step 2] ...His father was an alcoholic with issues of his own like many parents. In a longer process than I will write about here, we explored was in which Jim could nurture and be a parent to the inner Jimmy. Of course there was some grief work during the process to mourn the loss or lack of the father-son relationship that he had missed... There was also the introduction of the sun shining upon Jimmy and Jim and so there were 2 inner resources... the adult Jim and also the transforming energy of the sun... which also brought in a sense of being loved and protected [Step 3]... The sun image is often quite powerful in integration and synthesis work and it is always a "surprise" of sorts as to what particular energies the sun... or spiritual Source... will present... Now, [as Step 4], we ask Jim to get an image of Jimmy and he sees the 8 year old playing happily and interacting with others on a playground.
So, this is an abbreviated version to illustrate the steps involved. This particular approach uses techniques learned in Psychosynthesis training and practice, but is commonly used in other approaches. There is no way to know how helpful this understanding is and whether your conscious or unconscious mind understands it best... but in any case, I hope it helps you in the best possible way to make changes you are making now and also helps you help others as they transition more fully to the present moment...
Please feel free to ask questions or make comments. There is a comment link at the bottom of the blog post or you may write directly to John@sunhutch.com.
As a disclaimer I am not a certified NLP practitioner and am thankful for this Meta-pattern info shared by John Overdurf, who like me has recently changed states for the better!
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With Blessings and Love,
John
... and welcome to the Present Moment!
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