"If in your relationships you experience both 'love' and the opposite of love - attack, emotional violence, and so on - then it is likely that you are cofusing ego attachment and addictive clinging with love. You cannot love your partner one moment and attack him or her the next. True love has no opposite. If your 'love' has an opposite, then it is not love but a strong ego-need for a more complex and deeper sense of self, a need that the other person temporarily meets. It is the ego's substitute for salvation, and for a short time it almost does feel like salvation....
"That is why, after the initial euphoria has passed, there is so much unhappiness, so much pain and unhappiness. They do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you... Every addiction does that. Every addiction reaches a point where it does not work for you anymore, and then you feel the pain more intentensely that ever...
"This is one reason why most people are always trying to escape the present moment and are seeking some kind of salvation in the future..."
Eckhart Tolle, Practicing the Power of Now pp. 88-9
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A new work order for me, Not a mantra... - What I give, I give to God..No more keeping score, I let go of judgments and opinions but to give thanks to continue a loving practice, taking responsibility and forgiving myself, God is my source. I particularly resonant with the comment regarding bringing out the pain and unhappiness in a love "addiction" which implies an unhealthy relationship. I am making a choice to be loving to myself so I can open up to love and abundance.
ReplyDeletePrayers, support are greatly appreciated...
to do this authentically.
Hugs & peace, Liz